I brewed a simple malt bill mostly pale with some munich and a tiny bit of crystal. (dont have the exact numbers with me.)
Water at 50ppm CaC03 ish treated with campden over night and 1tsp of Gypsum in the mash.
Small bittering, large flavour and flame out addition Citra and Galaxy with a 15min hop stand at 75c.
Strong ferment 2pkgs of rehydrated US-05 for 2 weeks.
After crash cooling with gelatin to strip out yeast I split the batch... 1/2 with no dry hopping went from fermenter too bottle, and 1/2 with 30g of Citra and 30g Galaxy dry hopped for 1 week (pellet, which I thought was the key as I have previous dry hopped with leaf.).
Primed to 2vols and bottled. Stored at room temp for 3 weeks and tried each.
The difference was mind blowing! The no DH batch was good and had a subtle hoppy flavour from the late additions. The DH batch had massive hop aroma and the citrus I wanted. I thought I had finally cracked it!
Another week (at room temp) and I was excited to try my awesome beer again. Popped open one of each to compare again...

I know that hop aroma fades over time but I thought this would be months not a week? "Drink it young" in the first 4 weeks is NOT a solution for me!
Is this something to do with the bottle conditioning process? I noted the beer seemed a little hazier at week 4 is the yeast doing something to the hop oils?
Would kegging shomehow help this process (minimising yeast activity by force carbing) as I think I might start kegging to save storing hundreds of empty bottles?
Am I introducing too much 02 at some point and speeding up staling? although I am very careful.
I have noticed on all my previous beers they taste amazing after 3 weeks in the bottle and then by week 4-5 its all down hill. Surely they should have a longer shelf life?
Sorry for the long post but just want to get in as much detail as possible, I'm loosing the will ATM!!